Monday, January 24, 2011

Love starts with yourSELF

I've had many ups and downs in my life.  Many moments when my world was not going the way I had planned, and when it felt easier to wallow in my own pity than actually do something about it. Each relationship that failed would make me reexamine my life.  Each ending brought an even more wonderful beginning.  For those of you that struggle with relationships listen to that inner voice.  The one that really knows how you feel. I like to call it your intuition.  Anyhow after looking at my life I realized the most important thing was to love myself.

No relationship worthy of lasting can survive if the person does not know themselves and love their self exactly as they are.  This I can vouch for is definitely harder than it looks.  Just think about how many times you criticize yourself everyday, staring in the mirror fixing all the things you think are wrong with you with your mind. Or those self defeating thoughts of yours that limit yourself and make your self-esteem plummet.  To you is say enough!!!!

I'm in the progress of working on loving myself.  Which is strange when you think about it.  Shouldn't you always love yourself?  Shouldn't things like happiness come naturally?  It seems strange that we have to work to be happy.

One of the first things I think everyone needs to learn to do is laugh at themselves.  Today I had dance class and we learned some new steps in ballet.  Now for those of you that don't know I LOVE to dance but it takes me awhile to catch on to any move.  So when we had to dance in front of the class sashaying to the other side of the room I messed up.  Yes I felt like a fish out of water, but one that was smiling the whole time.  The most admirable thing is to make a fool out of yourself but laugh all the while.  Embarrassment is a waste of energy when you can enjoy it more not caring what others thing about you.

May you all make a fool of yourselves and laugh while your doing it.  Because when you can laugh at yourself you are one step closer to loving yourself <3

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Reawakening the Inner Child

Is it just me or do we tend to withdraw from our natural tendencies as a child to learn, explore, and play the older we become? As you grow up adults constantly tell you how to think and try to train you to follow what they believe.  It seems this constant repetition becomes ingrained in us until it replaces that fun loving child within.

As adults we focus on the negative aspects of the world.  From the media to our own lives we tend to focus on what is going wrong with it, instead of what is going right.

I've had the fortunate opportunity to travel outside the country.  I went to England and got to sing in a neurological hospital in front of people who couldn't speak or move--some of them moaning out in pain.  That experience humbled me; I realized all the gifts I take for granted everyday.

So now I am on a mission to reawaken my inner child; to find the curiosity, wonder, and excitement in all aspects of life.  The way I see it you have two options in life: you can choose to react to a situation negatively and let it ruin your day, or you can choose to be happy.  Acknowledge the event that occurred, then let it go. I know I know easier said than done!

I believe we become stuck in the pattern where we play the victim, the "poor me", focusing on all the wrong things.  The more you focus on what is wrong in your life, the more attention you send out into the universe telling it you want more of the same.

Today go out in the world and be in awe of the sun rising, feeling the breeze blow across your face, and giggle at life.  Appreciate all the things that you have to be grateful for and when faced with the choice to fall into the "poor me" phase or to rise above it and focus instead on happiness, choose wisely.  The day is yours for the taking so listen to that inner child and start to bring back the joy into your life. <3

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Higher Minds

First blog here and already I have some great ideas.  As a person coming from a mass media background I was slow to see the movie The Social Network, which is about the creation of Facebook.  I'm taking classes where all we talk about is Facebook, Twitter, blogging, and all the various forms of social media.

So it got me thinking that while all these new forms of technology have created more interaction with people, it also has created a wedge.  The internet has created a whole new way of living that we as a society didn't have 10 years ago. However, most of the interaction online takes away the personal one-on-one interaction that makes us human. It makes it so people can physically be alone without ever having to feel alone.

Think about it, 10 years ago the pace of the world was slower than it is now. If we don't know something then we just have to "google" it. So this high pace world know makes us uncomfortable to be alone or sit quietly and muse about the joys of life.

I'm one of those people who need alone time every once in a while.  I like being able to breath and just relax.  Or if I so chose I can contemplate on the deep mysteries in life.  So as I went to Panera for dinner by myself after seeing a movie with friends, I began to wonder why it is frowned upon to go somewhere alone in public.

I speculate that we as a society find it weird to be alone in public because we are uncomfortable with ourselves. We are afraid of what our mind will do in the silence, when our true colors begin to shine.

I believe that we manifest things into our lives by our thoughts.  We can choose a thought and whether or not to hold onto that thought any longer or let it go.  I guess I would say that when we are by ourselves our True Self is revealed. So while it may be looked down on to go out somewhere by yourself, I find it liberating.  Go out there in the world and invest the time in yourself.  Give yourself the gift to explore your mind, heart, and soul without judgement on your behalf.