The road to happiness is a continual journey for me. For a long time I thought it was something to attain, a place that once reached there would be smooth sailing for the rest of my life. So I would do things that made me happy, buy things that gave me joy, wishing to fulfill that level of happiness. All of riches in the world wouldn't make a difference. Sooner or later I was back to where I was before at square one when the "happiness high" wore off.
There is a quote by Democritus that says, "Happiness resides not in possessions and not in gold; the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul." Yet everywhere around us we are told how we aren't good enough and what we need to do or buy to become happy. I'm reading the book Happy For No Reason, which I highly recommend for anyone searching for true happiness that can't be bought. I'm learning the true values of life are happiness and love. Besides that nothing else compares.
So for those of you with the buy, buy, buy mentality ( of which I'm trying to move out of) who always have to purchase something in order to find happiness here is some advice for you:
You know the focus should be on love yet you get distracted by other things that you obsess over until they seem more important. Stop trying to be like everybody else and just be you. Ask yourself if you need this and see how you feel. If it creates happiness for you then it is good. If it creates fear or sadness then this is not helping you stick true to your path. All the answers to your questions lie deep within you. You have the wisdom it takes to go down the path you seek. Is this on path with what you want to create? Possessions should make you happy and assist you on your path. Don't let your voice be drowned out by the crowds'. What is right for them isn't right for you. Be a leader, an individual instead of being a follower.
You want material things because you felt like it symbolized this place you couldn't reach and once you could things would be good. Through material things you could elevate your life and make it more exciting, change it from what it was before. It is okay to have nice things or want them, but don't sacrifice yourself to get these things. Don't let these things become who you are. What do YOU want? Own it for yourself and not because others have it.
Happiness is a journey for me...one that I plan on enjoying during the way. No one can be happy all of the time but when you focus on the things that really matter in life, then you are one step closer. May you all be Happy For No Reason and find your inner bliss.